Mental illness is a very real illness that is not a choice, is often long term, and can be acute and episodic.
Reality - I have to be understanding and empathetic as my daughter and I fight this battle together. I try to understand the situation from my daughter’s perspective, accepting she is probably a lot more scared and frustrated than I am.
Reality -There is no place for candy coating or underestimating the impact on the family, it is real, it can be extremely tough and disruptive to family life.
Reality - it is the illness causing all the upset and not the person.
Reality - Understanding that a child is the same sweet angel that they were on their 5th birthday, a spouse is the same loving person that you were in love with on your honeymoon.
Reality - It is the illness that is causing them to act irrationally.