Embarrassment is emotional discomfort, not physical pain. Many years ago I made the mistake of hiding my wife’s illness and did not speak out or become involved because I was embarrassed. I realize now how stupid that was. Having now become totally open and involved with my daughter's illness I can see the benefits of not allowing the fear of embarrassment to shut me down. Now I am no longer embarrassed about having mental illness in the family, and will talk to anyone without feeling shame.